Monthly Archives: August 2011

Call me!

In a couple of my “Ice” stories, there’s a fun, sexy relationship device I like to use from time to time. Can you guess what it is? Ha! I bet you’re all thinking now of the naughty things I have my characters doing in each story but I won’t keep you guessing.

It’s phone sex. ๐Ÿ˜€

It’s a really great way of giving the readers a taste of what the leads in a story are capable of without actually having them get together. And hey, it makes sense, doesn’t it? These guys in my “Ice” stories travel all over the place for their work and are often gone more days in a month than they’re home. It just seems that they might have more reason to connect with their partner in that way. Plus, they’re fun and easy scenes to write, for me anyway.

I also like the way the characters feel a little freer to talk to their partner. Even the shy ones sometimes feel up for flirting and more over the phone. In my most recent “Ice” story, “Breaking Through The Ice,” Drew teases Mina a few times about phone sex but she never goes all the way with him, at least not in this episode of their saga. ๐Ÿ˜‰

In another of my stories, “Uncovering The Ice,” the two lead characters meet via email at first and spend their time getting to know each other that way, and over the phone, before they ever meet in person. That allowed them to build up a rapport and interest in each other that went beyond pure physical attraction. I’m not saying it would be the same in real life necessarily but it’s a nice way to start by being friends. On the other hand, they did get busy over the phone before they’d ever met. ๐Ÿ˜‰ Naughty, naughty, naughty!

I do wonder sometimes how realistic it is. Sure, maybe people who travel a lot for work or those who end up moving away for school do the long distance relationships. In those cases, I can easily imagine the phone sex angle. On the other hand, many people view the whole experience as something embarrassing or undesirable. For my part โ€“ and I speak from experience, I don’t mind admitting ๐Ÿ˜‰ โ€“ it’s a pleasurable and sexy part of a relationship.

Of course, there’s also the fact that these men in my stories don’t always have a place to themselves when they’re traveling. That can definitely put a damper on any amorous phone calls. So then… Should I have them resort to cyber sex?

Oh, don’t be embarrassed! In today’s digital age, so many people do it via email, on-line chatting sites and even via texts. Again, I’m not saying it’s something everyone does, but it’s out there. It’s something else that’s fun to write and who doesn’t feel a little bit more brave sending an email with all your thoughts and desires. Could you do something just as easily in person? Maybe only with someone you were truly and deeply comfortable with. That’s not an easy thing to find. In my stories, I like to use either of these scenarios as a tool to create more intimacy between the characters. Does that sound silly? Completely unlikely?

I also think it’s funny that I use these tools so often in my writing, along with everything else my characters end up doing to each other ;). When I read a romance novel or watch a romantic movie, I actually prefer the ones without overt sexual references. I enjoy the ones where there are long moments of silence, where the male and female leads just look at each other. Or when they do touch and you almost feel your heart stop because you know just what it means that that contact was made.

Of course, you already know I love Jane Austen’s novels and those romances are all about falling in love with the mind and soul. One of my other favourite novels is “North and South” by Elizabeth Gaskell. It’s just unbelievable how you can feel the leads falling in love throughout the course of the book, and when they do touch you know they feel those butterflies because you’re right there with them. It might be more of a testament to how good the authors are that they make me feel this way but I just love pure romance.

Does it seem strange now that I’ve admitted that? Especially considering what I do write? I wonder what y’all prefer when reading or looking for a movie to watch. I think some of you must enjoy the sexy games I throw into my stories, otherwise you wouldn’t be here with me now. But be honest, do you prefer seeing the characters get it on? Or are you like me, a sappy romantic at heart?

In other news, have you been to Literotica lately and seen that they’ve posted all the nominees for the year end awards from 2010? Chapter two of my story “A Feel For the Ice” was nominated in the romance category. If you like me, click here and throw a vote my way. Also, my good friend PennLady is up for best editor and y’all know how much she helps me so you know how much she deserves a vote for that.

Thanks for stopping by again this week and I hope to get a lot more writing done soon. I’m going through feedback withdrawal over here!

Until next time, take care and happy reading!


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Can it work?

I recently had a conversation with someone who told me he has a hard time making friends with women. His mind often goes ‘there’ and he’s continuously distracted by that. I can’t say I’ve always done the same thing with my male friends but I’d also be lying if I said the thoughts never crossed my mind. Does it affect my ability to make friends with certain men? Maybe. For my part, at my full-time job I’m surrounded by men and by the time I’m off the clock, I want to spend time with some sane female friends. ๐Ÿ™‚ Oh yeah, I said it!

I wrote a story a short while back called “On Thin Ice” and the basic premise was best friends becoming lovers. It’s a common theme in romance and maybe one of the most heartfelt. Hasn’t everyone at some point or another harboured a secret crush on a friend of the opposite sex? (Or the same sex, depending on what you’re into.) Maybe it has developed into more for you, or maybe not.

Reviews for my story were mixed, at best. It was probably one of my lower rated in the “Ice” series. As the author, I know it could have used more work, but when I say that, I’m referring more to the editing and polishing, rather than changing the story itself. Readers were mixed in how they felt about the main characters and how they came to be together. Some loved it, felt it was ‘real,’ while others didn’t like how they acted and how they fought. I won’t say more and risk giving anything away โ€“ then again, most of you reading this blog have probably already read it. ๐Ÿ™‚

I wonder though, did my story received mixed reviews just because it was subpar, or because it struck a nerve with some readers? Were they upset that the two best friends fought their growing attraction so much? Everyone knows how they want these kinds of stories to go but there’d be no story if there wasn’t conflict. I also think that you are hurt by, and hurtful to, the people closest to you. Not intentionally, of course, but because you love someone else so much โ€“ friend or otherwise โ€“ their opinion matters to you so much more. When they say or do something that hurts, it hurts that much more.

But I’m veering off topic. What I’m wondering today is, can men and women be just friends? Whether or not you’re in a relationship, can you really spend any amount of time with a member of the opposite sex and not start to feel something?

Think of your closest friends. What is it about them that attracted you? Yes, you become friends because you’re attracted to them, whether you want them naked in bed or not. The difference is that when you’re seeking a friend, you’re not thinking about getting them naked in bed. You’re thinking about grabbing a coffee and chatting. You’re thinking about that inside joke that had you both laughing until tears ran down your faces. Or you’re thinking about just how long you’ve been friends (something I recently realized about a couple friends. ๐Ÿ™‚ Made me feel old.) Anyway, when you want a friend, you’re not thinking about sex. Usually.

Now think about your lover, partner, spouse, whatever. Do you automatically think about sex? Or do you think about grabbing a coffee with them, laughing about that inside joke or do you think about just how long you’ve been together? The only difference is obvious. So if you’re making friends with the opposite sex, what keeps you from going ‘there’ with them? And can you keep that up indefinitely? At some point, do your physical urges get in the way? Of course, just because you have urges doesn’t mean you need to act on them.

On the other hand, doesn’t it seem like a nice idea to become friends with someone first, before you become romantically involved? So often people will leap into relationships without really getting to know the other person. You become attached, maybe sexually, maybe not, but you come to realize that you’re maybe not as compatible as you thought. That’s not to say that you can only be compatible with someone you’re friends with. We all know there’s far more to finding a life mate than just a few points of interest.

I suppose that’s why the friends angle is such a popular subject in romance novels and movies. It can go so many different ways. Sometimes knowing each other the way best friends do can do more harm than good and vice versa.

I think I’m straying way off topic here… Forgive me. It’s been a long week and it’s late now. ๐Ÿ™‚ I really just wanted to touch base and see what y’all think of being friends with someone of the opposite sex.

I will at some future point attempt a friends-to-lovers angle in another story but like anything else, it’ll be different from how I’ve done it in the past. I hope you’re all still around when I get to it.

Until then, take care and happy reading!

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Facebook and Miscellany

Well, I’ve taken the leap. I’ve created a Facebook page. It just sort of happened, really, while I was revising my blog page. Speaking of which, I should be sticking with this blog design for now, no more revisions. It takes too much time. ๐Ÿ˜‰ I’ve added links to several of my favourite books and authors on the right side here. There’s also links to just some of my favourite stuff; hockey, the Flames, and my home-away-from-home, Chapters. ๐Ÿ˜€

In other news, I’m starting to adjust to my busier work schedule and my energy levels are slowly climbing in the evenings. As you know, that means more work done on my stories! I’m starting to feel that irresistible urge to write something. Anything. I just get a twitch in my fingers and if I’m not writing, I feel a bit listless. Does that make any sense at all? Imagine your favourite thing in the world to do, whether it’s reading, gardening, taking your kids to a movie, whatever. Now imagine you hadn’t done that for several weeks, not for any significant amount of time, anyway. Then think of how you get the urge to do it again. Sound familiar? That’s how I’m feeling. So I’ll get back to it.

I also got to thinking this week about what kind of music I listen to. I have a playlist on my computer called ‘writing’ and it’s filled with more genres of music than I was aware I had. Let’s see… I’ll give you a sample of one section:

“A Little Less Conversation” โ€“ Elvis Presley

“Sleeping Sickness” โ€“ City and Colour

“Galway Girl” โ€“ Mundy

“Always” โ€“ Bon Jovi

“Secrets” โ€“ One Republic

“Running Up That Hill” โ€“ Placebo

I could go on and on. Maybe you haven’t even heard of some of those artists anyway. There’s also Queen, Timbaland, Justin Timberlake, Great Big Sea… ๐Ÿ™‚ I enjoy so many different kinds of music. For writing, I like to mix it up, obviously.

I was talking with a new friend this week about how music reminds me of different things. A new hit this summer, “Rhythm of Love” by the Plain White T’s reminded me of him for some reason. Then I know listening to Duran Duran will remind me of Eve McFadden (she knows why! LOL) or listening to Garth Brooks reminds me of being in high school and listening almost exclusively to country music.

More than anything I love music or songs that tell a story. I’ve written a couple based on songs I enjoy (“That Summer” & “Peggy Gordon“) and I could probably find inspiration in others. It makes me think of how similar music and books can be. Or art, in general, I suppose. The creators are trying to get a point across. Yes, some are just trying to make a buck but why can’t you tell a story with a drawing or a lyric while you’re at it?

I suppose this isn’t the most focused of my blog entries, which maybe just displays how scattered I’m still feeling these days (I need to pick a story and just start writing something, dammit!). Anyway, I hope you’re all well and enjoying the summer days while they last!

Take care and happy reading!

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