Monthly Archives: July 2013

The More, The Merrier

By now, you all know that I enjoy writing in all different genres. Most of the time, whatever the genre, I still focus on romance. Fantasy, non-human, suspense and all the rest, I always love writing about a relationship going through the stages to some sort of happily ever after ending. I haven’t come close to touching on all genres but I try something different each time and enjoy the challenge of

I came across an article on Slate.com the other day about polygamy and whether or not the average person – in Western society – would give it a shot, if it were legal. Of course, that doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen, whether it’s because of religious choices or other personal preferences but for the most part, the traditional view of relationships is one-on-one. I’m not talking about marriages – that’s a whole other can of worms I’m not willing to discuss here right now. 🙂

I’ll confess, my view of a desirable relationship is the traditional one. I’ve pretty much only ever fantasized, dreamt of or imagined being in a monogamous relationship with a man. I’m not saying I’ve never once wondered what it would be like to be with another man at the same time or a woman or anything like that, but my preferences have always taken me down the traditional road. There’s nothing wrong with that, just like there’s nothing wrong with being with more than one person, whether it’s in a relationship or as a fling. So long as everyone involved are consenting adults capable of making those choices.

It does make me wonder how complicated these polygamous and multi-partner relationships would be. One-on-one is complicated enough, in my opinion. Can you imagine what it would be like to maintain the same level of intimacy and trust with more than one person, without ever letting yourself play favorites? Maybe I’m oversimplifying. Hey, every relationship is not exactly simple. I can attest to that. The basics are there, trust, honesty, love, some kind of emotional bond, but I find it hard enough to maintain with one person, let alone two.

Also, I’m not the kind of person who could endure an open relationship. Not because I don’t trust my partner absolutely, or that I’m a jealous person by nature. I suppose it’s because I’m a possessive person and don’t want to share. 🙂 I also know I could never find what I share with my SO with anyone else. I may not have had a hundred relationships before finding The One, but I had enough to know what was wrong for me. Again, that doesn’t mean it wouldn’t work for someone else. I just know what’s right or wrong for me.

Back to my original thought, how could I write something like an open relationship in a romantic way? Is it even possible? It might be. It might not. It’s definitely something I wouldn’t mind trying in the future. But what scenario would even be best to try? Two men, one woman? Two women, one man? Two and two? I wouldn’t even know where to start. How does a relationship like that begin?

My guess would be that they begin much the same way as I write my hetero-monogamous romance stories. Meet-cute at a grocery store or something, talk, laugh and date. And then… Well, that’s where I’d probably be at a bit of a loss. More so than usual. 🙂 Hey, I love a challenge!

In other news, it’s been a horrible week for me. Rest assured, I’m OK, my loved ones are OK, but a large bombshell was dropped on me and set me back a bit. Ah well. How would I know when things are OK if once in a while, things were completely messed up? I’m also going to be on vacation over the next couple of weekends and I’m not sure if I’ll have access to regular internet. If I do, I’ll try to stay in touch. If not, then I’ll talk to you in a few weeks.

Take care, and happy reading!

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Big Winner!

Does anybody else like to fantasize about what you’d do with your lottery winnings? It’s a common pastime for me and my SO. We talk about how we’d collect our winnings and jet off to some exotic locale. We’d probably travel the world for several months right off the bat, seeing as how I’ve hardly been anywhere, and eventually we’d return home. Of course, part of our winnings would go to different homes in all the places in North America that we like. Then we’d settle into some kind of life where I’d get to write all day and read to my heart’s content, and my SO can work on rebuilding a classic car. Somewhere in there, we’d gift our family and closest friends with some of the winnings, pay off a few mortgages and send my parents on a vacation since they’ve never been anywhere either! 🙂

It’s fun to dream about what you could do with unlimited resources. Don’t tell me you’ve never done it. What would you do if you won the biggest lottery you can think of?

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Truly Original

I don’t know if this has ever come up before, but I’m a fan of the HBO show, Game of Thrones. I’m well aware that it’s based upon a series of books by George R. R. Martin and I’ve just recently started reading the first books in the series. A few people I know have already read the books and are being very good about not spoiling things for me. (Although certain people do like to threaten me with spoilers when I’m being a smartass… 😉 )

After certain shocking events in this most recent season of the show, I came to love the show even more and it spurred me into reading the books – if only so I could find out what happens next instead of waiting for the show! I love being surprised by books and shows and movies. It happens so rarely now. And I don’t mean being surprised by the grandiose shots or action sequences or the wording of a scene in a book. I mean, being genuinely surprised by a plot twist that I absolutely did not see coming.

So many movies today aren’t even original. They’re remakes or adaptations of something else. TV shows are the same. Formulaic reruns of the same thing that’s been done a dozen times before. And books. Well, books and the stories in them can only be told so many different ways. As a romance writer, I know that very well. Still, the books are enjoyable, and so are the movies and the shows, because the journey through those same old storylines are what’s different.

But every once in a while, something comes along that shocks and thrills and surprises the pants off you! Game of Thrones (or as the series of books is called, A Song of Ice and Fire) is a perfect example of that.

So how so I get through reading so many different books of the same thing? Or watching the movies and shows? Hell, how do I get through writing something that most would consider the same story with different names and places inserted? I like to think I put a different, unique spin on each story, but let’s face it. It’s still boy-meets-girl, girl-or-boy-almost-loses-the-other, boy-and-girl-make-up-and-live-happily-ever-after. Lately though, I’ve been branching out and trying different things. I’ve started a new story in another new genre for me, and I have the feeling that it could go any number of ways in the end. I know where it’s going to go, but as readers, I’m hoping you’ll have any number of suspicions about it and that in the end you might be – pleasantly – surprised!

It is difficult trying to make the same story sound fresh every time it’s written. That’s one of the things I’ve been enjoying about Game of Thrones. So far, Martin has thrown every expectation out the window. I love it! I love not knowing who’s going to make it in the end (no matter how attached I am to certain imps and bastards), or which villains might survive by their cunning and trickery, in spite of me wanting to see their heads on a spike. 🙂 Yes, I’m cutthroat. It’s wonderful reading something so unique and not knowing how it may end. I’m only on the first book, and we’ve just finished the third season of the show, and from all accounts about the series, the author is still working on it. It may never end, from some perspectives.

There are very few other series or books I’ve read that follow the same surprising patterns. I enjoy Christopher Moore’s books but even he follows the same general formula – his own unique formula, granted – but it’s different from anything else out there, that’s for sure. One other series that comes to mind is the Fallen Angels by J.R. Ward. They’re an interesting mix of romance and the supernatural and I never know how each book is going to end, never mind how she’s going to wrap up the entire series.

As a writer, I do my best to write interesting and fresh stories. Sometimes that means rehashing something for my “Ice” series and late, it means writing something way outside the box for me. I hope you’ll continue to read what I write and let me know if you read something or see something that makes you say, “Holy crap! I did NOT see that coming!”

Take care and happy reading.

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